Comments on: Q&A: I found out my engagement ring is fake.? http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/ Wed, 01 Feb 2012 14:33:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Karen C http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/comment-page-1/#comment-738 Karen C Mon, 19 Jul 2010 03:27:57 +0000 http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/#comment-738 Take it to be appraised for 'insurance purposes'. When you receive the report, go to him acting shocked and angry....take about getting a lawyer to sue the jewelry store for fraud.....he'll either have to tell the truth and you can discuss why he felt the need to lie OR he really was taken for a ride by the store! You must get this out in the open before the wedding as it is bothering you...not the ring...the lie. Distrust shakes the foundation of a marriage, deal with it pronto! Take it to be appraised for ‘insurance purposes’. When you receive the report, go to him acting shocked and angry….take about getting a lawyer to sue the jewelry store for fraud…..he’ll either have to tell the truth and you can discuss why he felt the need to lie OR he really was taken for a ride by the store!

You must get this out in the open before the wedding as it is bothering you…not the ring…the lie. Distrust shakes the foundation of a marriage, deal with it pronto!

]]> By: Mya http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/comment-page-1/#comment-737 Mya Mon, 19 Jul 2010 02:47:37 +0000 http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/#comment-737 well the engagement ring doesn't really matter. you bot can pick the wedding bands and since you will be there, you can pick out a real one. It may take a shot at his ego if you confront him now about it well the engagement ring doesn’t really matter. you bot can pick the wedding bands and since you will be there, you can pick out a real one.

It may take a shot at his ego if you confront him now about it

]]> By: beetlemilk http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/comment-page-1/#comment-736 beetlemilk Mon, 19 Jul 2010 02:45:05 +0000 http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/#comment-736 It would bother me too and I'd want it out in the open. My suggestion would be to be really upset and say you went to the jewelery store today to clean your rings and browse, and were told by the jeweler who examined your ring that its not a diamond and that its moissanite. And that you don't understand because you were told its a diamond. I think he is embarrassed but I understand the issue is the lie not the ring. It would bother me too and I’d want it out in the open. My suggestion would be to be really upset and say you went to the jewelery store today to clean your rings and browse, and were told by the jeweler who examined your ring that its not a diamond and that its moissanite. And that you don’t understand because you were told its a diamond. I think he is embarrassed but I understand the issue is the lie not the ring.

]]> By: Lily http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/comment-page-1/#comment-735 Lily Mon, 19 Jul 2010 02:23:30 +0000 http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/#comment-735 Diamond rings are really expensive and maybe he wanted to get you a ring with a large stone, he may have looked and realised he couldn't afford a half a carat diamond so he settled for moissnite. He may have thought you wouldn't realise and now he is too embarressed to say??? ask him why he isn't being honest with you.... Diamond rings are really expensive and maybe he wanted to get you a ring with a large stone, he may have looked and realised he couldn’t afford a half a carat diamond so he settled for moissnite.

He may have thought you wouldn’t realise and now he is too embarressed to say???

ask him why he isn’t being honest with you….

]]> By: Cala B http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/comment-page-1/#comment-734 Cala B Mon, 19 Jul 2010 01:46:28 +0000 http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/#comment-734 Take it to a jeweller and get it valued for insurance purposes, then you'll know exactly what it is and he won't be able to lie about it any more. Aren't men stupid sometimes? it's the significance of the ring that counts, not the value, so there was no need to lie. Take it to a jeweller and get it valued for insurance purposes, then you’ll know exactly what it is and he won’t be able to lie about it any more. Aren’t men stupid sometimes? it’s the significance of the ring that counts, not the value, so there was no need to lie.

]]> By: Senior sufferin' Senioritis http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/comment-page-1/#comment-733 Senior sufferin' Senioritis Mon, 19 Jul 2010 01:32:23 +0000 http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/#comment-733 CZ is fake, moissanite is not a fake really. "(It's)The second-hardest stone in the world. Moissanite is so durable, it's nearly as hard as a diamond. While a diamond score a 10 on the hardness scale, moissanite comes in just below at 9 1/4. In fact, it's harder than sapphire or ruby." I think what he bought what you wanted and what he could afford. Little did he know you were going to get all CSI about this. I say drop it and focus on more important things in life. However it sounds like no matter what you're going to confront him about all this and have a big blowout. You sound bored and you need something- anything- to get some excitment going. I think it's time you focus on your own interests and to put it nicely- get a life. CZ is fake, moissanite is not a fake really.

“(It’s)The second-hardest stone in the world. Moissanite is so durable, it’s nearly as hard as a diamond. While a diamond score a 10 on the hardness scale, moissanite comes in just below at 9 1/4. In fact, it’s harder than sapphire or ruby.”

I think what he bought what you wanted and what he could afford. Little did he know you were going to get all CSI about this. I say drop it and focus on more important things in life. However it sounds like no matter what you’re going to confront him about all this and have a big blowout. You sound bored and you need something- anything- to get some excitment going. I think it’s time you focus on your own interests and to put it nicely- get a life.

]]> By: Nina http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/comment-page-1/#comment-732 Nina Mon, 19 Jul 2010 00:49:05 +0000 http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/#comment-732 Firstly before you say something I would get an appraisal. Don't go accusing him unless you are %100 sure. If it is indeed not a diamond, don't start yelling at him. Tell him you took it to get appraised because you were thinking of insuring it and then tell him the results. He might have a reasonable excuse and he may be embarrassed. Listen to what he has to say and be sure you explain to him that the reason you are hurt is because he lied not because it is not a diamond. Communication is the key. Firstly before you say something I would get an appraisal. Don’t go accusing him unless you are %100 sure.

If it is indeed not a diamond, don’t start yelling at him. Tell him you took it to get appraised because you were thinking of insuring it and then tell him the results.

He might have a reasonable excuse and he may be embarrassed. Listen to what he has to say and be sure you explain to him that the reason you are hurt is because he lied not because it is not a diamond. Communication is the key.

]]> By: Kathryn http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/comment-page-1/#comment-731 Kathryn Sun, 18 Jul 2010 23:54:57 +0000 http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/#comment-731 Talk to him. By you knowing the truth and not letting him now, it's kinda like lying by omission. Let him know the thought was beautiful and you love the ring regardless of the cost. But by him lying to you, the sentiment is lost. I'd also let him know you're not marrying the ring, but him. So wouldn't mind anyway. Or maybe you do? Fair enough too, I suppose I would mind a little. It is a ring you'll wear forever. I think a good open and honest chat is the best remedy here Talk to him.

By you knowing the truth and not letting him now, it’s kinda like lying by omission.

Let him know the thought was beautiful and you love the ring regardless of the cost. But by him lying to you, the sentiment is lost. I’d also let him know you’re not marrying the ring, but him. So wouldn’t mind anyway.

Or maybe you do? Fair enough too, I suppose I would mind a little. It is a ring you’ll wear forever.

I think a good open and honest chat is the best remedy here

]]> By: 4REEE http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/comment-page-1/#comment-730 4REEE Sun, 18 Jul 2010 23:42:19 +0000 http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/#comment-730 Unless you have it appraised you will really, truly never know if it's a real diamond or moissanite. I understand that you have a strong suspicion that it's moissanite, but until you have proof: Mums the word. You're already planting poisonous seeds in your relationship with this assumption. Please verify before acting! * * * Unless you have it appraised you will really, truly never know if it’s a real diamond or moissanite.

I understand that you have a strong suspicion that it’s moissanite, but until you have proof: Mums the word.

You’re already planting poisonous seeds in your relationship with this assumption.

Please verify before acting!

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]]> By: fizzy stuff http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/comment-page-1/#comment-729 fizzy stuff Sun, 18 Jul 2010 22:45:20 +0000 http://www.allmoissanite.com/moissanite/qa-i-found-out-my-engagement-ring-is-fake/#comment-729 If this is the ONLY thing he has lied about, please let it go. He obviously wanted to get you a diamond, but could not afford it. It may be trivial to you, but to him it means much more. You are hurting his pride by making him fess up. If he fibs about a bunch of other trivial things, then that is a different story. Total honesty is important, but this is one situation I advise you to just let it go. Reassure him that you love the ring, and never bring up the mossanite topic again. Marriage is a give and take. You know when to help each other, and when to hold back. When to bring up a sore topic, and when to let it go. When to point out the others bad habits, and when to shut up. Dont make a mountain out of a molehill. If this is the ONLY thing he has lied about, please let it go. He obviously wanted to get you a diamond, but could not afford it. It may be trivial to you, but to him it means much more. You are hurting his pride by making him fess up.

If he fibs about a bunch of other trivial things, then that is a different story.

Total honesty is important, but this is one situation I advise you to just let it go. Reassure him that you love the ring, and never bring up the mossanite topic again.

Marriage is a give and take. You know when to help each other, and when to hold back. When to bring up a sore topic, and when to let it go. When to point out the others bad habits, and when to shut up. Dont make a mountain out of a molehill.

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